Why penetration can be a blessing or a curse

Being lovingly penetrated can be the most amazing experience in human existence.

It has the potential to create this sacred and intimate bond between lovers. A bond that’s even hard to fully describe with words. It’s something you can feel when lovers_couples have it (i personally love to stay in the energy field of couples radiating it).

Penetration can also be such a delightful way to deeply relax, let go of the mind, and enter into the world of sensations and just BEING. Feeling yourself, feeling your beloved and the space between you. Bubbling up in a really magical way.

And don’t get me wrong…I don’t mean penetration is always pleasurable and feels amazingly good in every moment. Sometimes feeling the Lingham deep inside or just at some specific spots can bring up a lot of charged and unprocessed emotions and sensations. This is the moment when healing can be touched. The moment to be present, slow down, move, sound, and just feel whatever wants to be felt. So there can be discomfort that leads to greater healing. The discomfort actually leads to a deeper awakening of the Yoni. It brings a very welcome release and brings the couple even closer together because it is such a blessing if you can go there together. This is the place where making love makes the bridge to sacred healing in togetherness.

In that sense, lovemaking CAN be a true blessing.

EXCEPT IF IT IS NOT.

What do I mean by that?

From talking with a lot of Goddesses and from my own past experiences, there is A LOT of penetration that happens simply too early, too deep, and in a way that’s kind of too much. Not in the way that YONI could actually really RECEIVE the blessing of the lovemaking.

I think at the root it’s simply because we are not well educated about the arts of making love.

What is a good ground for the Yoni to potentially have pleasure in penetration:

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Her Yoni, heart, and mind agree with each other that they are actually ALL ready for lovemaking. This is a tricky one. Because sometimes the mind is ready, but Yoni still isn’t. Sometimes the Yoni is, but the heart isn’t. Sometimes the heart is ready, but the mind is freaking out. And so on.

If we still go ahead we can create strong misalignments in ourselves. And we need to be attentive to which parts still need something in order to fully be safe in the experience of lovemaking.

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Women have erectile tissues as well and we want that to be ready. In men, it’s very visible when erectile tissues start to become engorged with blood.In Goddesses, the same thing is happening but more inside (all around the clitoris & bulbs of the vestibule). Having this tissue ready makes penetration feel amazing. Yoni massage supports this process. Explore your Yoni in a state of erected tissues vs. not erected. And you will understand more about your physical readiness.

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The Yoni feels a clear full body YES to melt with the Lingham inside of her. A maybe is a NO. This is THE practice to own your boundaries and listen very attentively to your very truth. Imagine how safe your Yoni would be if you were only allowed to receive penetration when you are really ready. If you are a trustworthy guard for your Yoni. And imagine how your sex life would change if you could get to a deeper understanding of what actually creates READINESS for you. There are laying the keys for your sensual blossoming and sexual radiance.

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Create clarity about how she wants to be penetrated today. Because there is a huge scale of how penetration can be experienced. Maybe it’s just a peaceful and silent resting in each other. Maybe it’s just the entry that wants to be pleasured. Maybe today is the full program of the experience. There is not just white or black, this is an invitation to explore all the different colors along the way.

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A practical one: make sure there is enough lubrication. Either from her natural juices or take some special support to hand (coconut oil). Not all women get super wet and create all the lubrication that is needed to make it feel amazing. And also her being wet doesn’t necessarily mean she is 100% ready for penetration. It can just be a sign of she is warming up. Nothing worse than having the Yoni irritated from dryness that needs to heal after lovemaking.

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And last but not least; facing the fears that hold you back from fully surrendering to deep lovemaking. Such as fear of getting pregnant, fear of getting dis-ease from lovemaking, fear of maybe doing something you don’t like but you can’t say NO and hold your boundaries, fear of its not gonna feel good and creating discomfort, fear of your sexual «performance » isn’t how it should be and so on.

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Receiving penetrative lovemaking consciously and in full alignment is really important for Goddesses. Because if women have sex and they are not really ready and that happens on a regular base, they have a risk to lose their desire for sexuality and intimacy. It can create patterns of avoiding intimacy to simply not get there again and that can be very challenging in relationships. It can even create a mindset where women think «sex isn’t for me» – where it’s actually just not done in the way the woman can receive and in-joy it.

Also, Yoni can create very destructive ways of protecting herself.

Creating tension in the pelvic bowl or other im-balances could be a result of unintegrated penetration as a destructive way of your Yoni to prevent penetration again.

Especially when Goddesses are healing health challenges like HPV in their most sacred body parts, owning their truth about lovemaking is massively important.

We only want to do things, they serve her well-being and honor where she is at right now.

♡ What makes penetration amazing for you?

♡ What creates readiness for you?

♡ What inspired you about those words?